Most of the time it’s pretty easy, I am a positive person and generally happy. There are just times that nothing seems to be going my way. I truly believe in the law of attraction and that is why I never give up in my daily training.

I saw Phyllis Diller on the Rosie show yesterday she is one hell of a lady. She was saying that she always laughs and in her mind which she calls our computer. She says you have to “believe”. Believe, now that is where I struggle, it’s not that I don’t believe it’s just that I don’t seem to believe in myself.
I think it has a lot to do with my upbringing but I am the first to say you can’t blame your life on that.

Constancy, I think is one of my big problems. I do affirmations for a while then I stop. My “self talk” is not always good. I usually give up on myself before anyone else can give on me. Unfortunately I don’t think very highly of myself at times. I have improved, over the years in my personal growth. There are times though I fall back down. I do get back up and move on though, that is the only way to improve, we must get back up.

For some reason (I would think it is quit subconscious) I have thought if I don’t do or try something I won’t disappoint myself or others. Now I have learned that, that is a pretty shitty way of thinking. I read over and over that winners never quit and when you fall get back up. Losers give up and successful people always get up and keep trying. I guess than I am on my way to success, because I have been doing this for about three years (consistently) and I am not giving up.

See I came from a back ground of a very strict religion, but never agreed with what I was being told. It just didn’t seem right to me. I was never encouraged to do good in school or graduate or college for that matter. That was not even an option. Not because of money but because the end of this system, would be here any day. There were times I was taken out of school for the afternoons to babysit for my stepsisters. Now what does that say about how important school was to my family, out of ten children, not one of us graduated.

I think I’m a bit down on myself today. The reason for this post though is to show any one reading, that life is a struggle at times. It does go up and down, it’s how you deal with the downs that make the difference.

I am always doing my best to write stuff that is positive and will encourage people. The thing is I am human and I have struggles too. The most important thing about my blog is being real. I’m not perfect and I want people to be able to relate to me. I know for myself when I read some blogs I feel like these people are so perfect, when in reality we all have our struggles, just most people don’t put that out to the world. Maybe I’m a little crazy.

I am doing the master cleanse right now. If you don’t know what the master cleanse is here is a run down. First you do it for a min of 10 days and a max of 40. During those days you drink a mixture of fresh lemon juice mixed with water, maple syrup and cayenne pepper. Before bed you drink herbal laxative tea and in the morning you drink a mixture of water and sea salt, to flush yourself out. I know this may not sound too pleasant for most. Why the hell am I doing this, you might ask.

Well its purpose is to cleanse out all the toxins from your body. Toxins cause disease and that is a fact. So to stay healthy it’s good to do this 1 or 2 times a year. For me, I eat pretty healthy as it is, but not always. If I can do anything to maintain my good health I will. This cleanse may seem a bit extreme but surprisingly you’re not hungry at all. In the end your getting toxins, that have been in your body for years, out.

Did you know that 1 teaspoon of sugar will lower your immune system for an hour! Now that’s crazy. Think about how many people practically live on soda pop. I don’t think we have to wonder too much, about why there is so much disease in this world with all the crap we eat.

If you pay attention and eat real food, not processed you find yourself a bit happier and healthier. Life is much better when your healthy.

Do your best to take care of your body this year.

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I always said as a kid, all I want is to be happy. That was what I said any time someone asked what I want out of life. Ya know I have learned so much in the last few years. I have always been a happy person. I almost always have a smile on and for some reason people feel good around me.
I had one of the best compliments the other day, a new friend of mine said “ I don’t know what it is but as soon as I met you I felt comfortable” Now that is awesome in my world, I want everyone to be comfortable. After all it’s not who you are it’s how people feel around you.
I want people at my funeral to remember, how good I made them feel and remember that, feeling. Life is all feelings. There are good, there are bad. We all have the power to deal with a situation in a good way or bad way.
It’s your choice. Do you choose happiness or misery? As the saying goes “shit happens” during those times, you can only cope in a way that you know. For me I used to get very mad and sad, at the news, with every story because, lets face it news doesn’t broadcast very many good things, or anytime I hear about abuse or children being mistreated. Not feelings I like at all. (I do not watch news anymore) Then I read in a book, I think it was a spiritual instruction book. It said I don’t know exactly how it went but something like, you go through feelings of; Happiness, Joy, neutral, then sad anger and depression. What you want to do is stay in neutral, Don’t go below that. You want to keep the vibration of your body up. That is when good things start to happen.
We are all energy and good energy spreads. Of course there is going to be bad things. Let yourself feel it then move one, don’t dwell. I think a lot of the time it’s hard to move on because society has made it that you should be sad and dwell. For example if a loved one dies, of course you will be sad. For some reason we will beat ourselves, up if we have a happy feeling like its wrong. Seriously, do you think that loved one is going to want you to be unhappy forever, no they want you to be happy and get on with life and treasure the moments you had with them.
The point of this post is to just point out, life is full of upset and bad situations. On the other hand it is full of happiness and beautiful experiences. Do your best to stay Happy. If you can keep your spirit up life is soooooo much easier. Your light will shine and help others. It’s alright to let your light shine we need people in this world to do more of that. I know a smile is contagious, so smile and brighten the world.

One of the hardest things, to not do. This practice is amazing, when you pay attention to how much you do it, you realize the different ways it can be done. It is not always a bad thing. Let me rephrase that it’s not always done with bad intentions. It is still something to be aware of.
I know one example for me is when I’m driving. I tend to be a bit of a fast driver. So slow people on the road, can be a bit annoying, but it always seems that when I’m sitting there, complaining about them in my head, once I get a chance to pass, I realize they look lost or its a little old man or woman that can barely see over the steering wheel. Then I feel like crap for cursing them. Another one that happens to me is when people don’t signal, that drives me crazy at times. Then of course, I will find myself in my own little world and realize that I didn’t signal. O no, I was the asshole right there. It tends to humbles you a bit. Which I think is a very good thing to happen to us every once in a while.
I think, if we are always judging ourselves that contributes a lot to the judgment of others too. I have found since I stopped judging myself I tend to look at people in a different way. People fascinate me I love to hear life stories and how people got to where they are now. We all have one and most have some very difficult times in them.
So we wouldn’t want judgment from others during those times, we would want empathy and understanding. If someone is rude to you give them a little blessing in your head. They might be going through a really bad divorce or maybe they have lost a loved one, you never know. Maybe the customer just before you, ripped there head off, you never know. I know one thing for sure, never take it personal. It’s not you, it’s what they are going through. Unless you just treated them badly, then shame on you, and don’t do it again.
Boy, there are many times in my younger years that, I’m not so proud of. I have more patients for those teens and young adults. It is a difficult time of life. Take a step back and remember “The Golden rule”. Do into others that you would have done unto you.

I read a book called “The Four Agreements” By Don Miguel Ruiz. It is amazing everyone in this world should read it. When I first read it, I was amazed at how it seems as though it should be so easy to practice. The agreements are, Be Impeccable with Your Word, Don’t Take Anything Personally, Don’t Make Assumptions and the last is, Always Do Your Best. Lets talk about these a bit.

When I read it, I was like, of course this is just common sense isn’t it? Unfortulely common sense is not so common. When I started to practice it, it was a bit harder than I thought. I realized how many things I take personally. How many times I assume in a day. I might not always be impeccable with my word and sometimes, I might half ass some things in my life.

I realized after that I shouldn’t beat myself up over it. I just start over the next day. Now though, it is getting easier. Especially assuming, I found when I let that go, my husband and I got along a lot better. I used to get upset every time he was in a bad mood thinking, did I do something? I would run through my day and think and over analyze about what I could have done.

When really, it wasn’t me at all. He was just having a shitty day. Sometimes I think men are just as moody as us women, maybe more at times lol.

With my children it was hard when holidays come around. You can’t be impeccable with your word and tell your kids that Santa exists. In the book they give a very good example I would like to share with you. We teach our kids, Santa brings presents to those who have been good all year, right. Well the kids know good kids from bad kids. They know if the kid next door has been good or bad. Now lets say both kids ask for a bike for Christmas, but your family can’t afford a new bike at the time. So your child doesn’t get one, but the kid next door, ya, the one that always picks on your kid. Well he does get a bike.

What message does that give your child? I’m not saying make sure you tell your kids the truth about everything, they must be age appropriate. It’s just, be careful with how you choose to tell them things. Kids are not stupid. They are after all, just little human beings.

I wanted to talk a bit about being responsible for your life. So many people in this world blame pretty much anyone they can. Hell, if you burn yourself with hot coffee somebody else must be responsible. If you slip and break your ankle in a parking lot, it must be the fault of the owner of the parking lot, right. Somebody has to pay.

I spent 4 months in New Zealand last year. It is a country that hasn’t been totally corrupted by Lawyers and politics yet. Pedestrians don’t have the right of way, which I think is fabulous after all cars are slightly bigger than a person. If your in a car accident the government will pay for all your medical expenses but you don’t get a payout.

When people start to take responsibility for their life, this world would run a lot smoother. That’s my take anyway. You are the creator of your life, no one else. Don’t give your power away. You give your power away every time you blame someone.

Even something like superstition is giving your power away. Your saying you don’t have control it’s something beyond you. I do believe there is a higher power out there that does have a purpose for us but we are always exactly where we are supposed to be. If there is a accident heaven forbid, it happened for a reason. We are to learn something from it, or the people that are involved in and around it, are to learn something. Even though at the time, it may seem senseless.

I believe in the law of attraction. If you don’t you may want to start. Think about the self talk that goes on in your head, is it positive or negative? You create your life with your thoughts. What you think about you bring about.

Start to think in a positive way, and take responsibility for your life.

Do you listen? Do you hear when people are talking to you? The fact is that the majority of people aren’t listening. They are either thinking about something else, like what you are saying relates to them or they are thinking about what they are going to say next. They don’t actually listen. I didn’t realize this until I started to really listen myself.

Sometimes it is hard to listen because you might not agree with what they are saying. That is O.K. You don’t have to agree. You have that right. Listening though does not mean you have to agree with what they are saying.

On average when people are in conversation 45% of the time they are thinking of what to say, another 45% on waiting for a break to say what they want, and 10% actually listening. When I heard those figures I was stunned. When I observed others I saw it, and in myself. It is very easy to fall back into that pattern. It takes practice to listen 100%.

We all want to be heard. We want to be recognized and appreciated. When you are talking to someone and they start to look around, how do you feel?

You will be amazed at how much people will open up. You will hear things that you never would have heard before. Be 100% present in your relations and see what a difference it makes.

Well it’s only 11:00am and yes it is already amazing. Not for any particular reason. The sun is shining and I feel great. That alone is enough for me to be amazing. It’s even a Monday, it’s great when this happens consistently. The more I have silent time to meditate or do some yoga the better I feel. I wish for the world to realize how important silence is.

Our lives are so busy doing this and that. We have no problem spending a half hour to an hour getting ourselves primped and pampered to go out, we take the time to eat and nourish our selves. For some reason though, at times, it can seem difficult to nourish our spirit. When that is the source of our life! It is what can help make your day good or bad. If you feel good inside the rest of the world feels good too.

Today I will practice silence. Today I will be at one with nature. Today I will practice patients. This can be very difficult, with three little ones at times.

I am going to go do some yoga now, I am a beginner in this department but I think any is better than none.

I hope you have a fabulous day today.